Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) discusses state in great detail, but as a coach, sometimes its worthwhile just moving the client towards a more positive state as a gross movement and then gain more precision in achieving the most beneficial state as part of the session.
One of the ways I get clients to ‘break state’ and self motivate is to give them a number of questions to answer that drive them into the ‘possibility space’, that place in their mind that allows them to think of what is possible rather than what is limiting them.
This is actually a very simple technique but can be very effective when the used with a client that has engaged in a state which is less than resourceful.
Getting the client into the right state to start with is important and a precursor to a moving into a deeper coaching session.
However, I have seen some coaches take the backwards down a time line and have them dwell upon the past. I believe that this is starting to stray into counselling and therapy rather than coaching.
Here is a selection of questions that might help you break the client’s negative state and get them to a more positive place before you really get into the coaching session.
- What 3 things, if you did them really well, would make a significant positive impact on your life today?
- How much money would you need to feel rich and why? (Ensure you get a good long list here to ensure you are exhausting the ‘automatic’ answers and getting to the answers that reflect beliefs and values.)
- What would fire you up to make one bold step towards your major goal in the next 15 minutes?
- What would you be doing if money and commitment where not a concern at the moment?
- What would be your perfect motivational playlist to collect your Nobel Prize to?
- What super power would you most like to have?
- If you won £1000 shopping voucher, what would you spend it on?
These questions are but a few that will get the client into the ‘possibility space’ and so will tend to break any previous connection with the problems of life and prepare them for the session.
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