As my earlier post on previously stated, NLP treats beliefs as arbitrary. That means you can adopt any belief that you like and just accept that it is true. SO why no create beliefs that are empowering.
NLP has a basic framework of beliefs that empower its practitioners and these are called PRESUPPOSITIONS.
Presuppositions are the foundation beliefs that NLP uses to define how the brain works. The key ones include:
The map is not the territory – We create a representation of the world in our minds and this map, no matter how rich a representation it is, could never be the world. It is like eating the menu rather than the food that is described upon it.
Experience has structure – Our thoughts and memories have a pattern to them, a way of encoding them in our neurology. If we change the pattern, we change the effect our memories and experience have on us.
What one person can do, another can learn to do – If we learn an achiever’s mental map, we make it our own. This increases our ability to more readily adopt the achiever’s successful behaviour.
Mind and Body are part of the same system – A change in our mental state changes the state of our body. And a change in the state of our body changes our mental state.
People already have all the resources they need – Mental images, inner voices, memories and sensations are the building blocks of our experiences. We can build these blocks into strategies and patterns that create new effects we want in our life.
You cannot NOT communicate – People are social creatures and we are perceptive to the behaviour of others. So even if you don’t say a word, you will not be able to avoid communicating something in a shrug, a sign, even a facial expression.
The meaning of your communication is the response you get – Others make sense of the world through their own mental map. So when you communicate, it is not always what you think you said that is communicated. Others filter that message and often hear something different, sometimes considerably different from what you meant to say.
There is positive intent behind every behaviour – People rarely act without gaining some benefit, even if that behaviour seems thoughtless or hurtful. A yell may be to ward of danger, so look for the positive intent in actions.
People are always making the best choices available to them – Given our memories, knowledge skills and experiences, we always make what we consider to be the best decisions we can.
There is no failure, only feedback – If something you are doing isn’t working, use that knowledge as feedback and change what you are doing.
If you consider these principles as being true and adopt them into your personal philosophy, then you will be making a conscious decision about being more open to the differences around you and so increase your awareness of people’s behaviour. That increased awareness will increase your flexibility and given you more options for improving your daily interactions with your friends, family and colleagues.
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